It's hard to hug a stiff child

"It is easier to hug a dirty child than a stiff one. The child who has been running through mud puddles all day long, who hears Mom or Dad calling, perks up, and heads filthy and full force into their waiting arms may transfer some dirt, but as his small pliable body willingly yields, a hug comes easy. Not so, with a stiff child, a child who refuses to come when called. A child who exhibits disrespect for her parents, disobeying their rules right in front of them. A child who considers the folks as “just not good enough”. Even if you manage to get your arms around them, you might as well be hugging a board." 

Carolyn Kisler on Braking Points