Monday, May 07, 2007

Being single

There is nothing wrong with being single.

It is good
I Cor. 7:1,8,26 -- Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman... I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I... I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress, I say, that it is good for a man so to be.

It is a gift
I Cor. 7:7 -- For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.

It is useful
I Cor. 7:32,33 -- But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.


Anonymous said...

You know, this posting has stuck in my mind for quite sometime that I thought I must finally comment. Probably no one else will see it because of the time factor. Of course that really doesn't matter anyway.

I have had quite a few people when talking with me advocate the same position. However, they all had one thing in common. All had been married for many years. It seems like they would have a hard time relating to being single.

There are just some things I do not get the concept of. So many will bring children into the world who have no business whatsover doing so. Then some who would cherish the opportunity are not even afforded a legitimate chance.

You know, our entire culture relvoves around couples and families. When an individual reaches 44 years of age, they almost start to feel out of place going into an establishment or out and about in public.

Of course some choose to remain single. That's a different story altogether. But, I don't know of anyone who really wants and searches out for a spouse,companion, etc, that does not end up finding one. That is regardless of anything about them.

The real issue for me is not just the fact that you do not have someone, but the fact that no one seems to want you. I have delved deep into this issue searching for an answer to the question, and just cannot find one. Maybe people now value other things than what once seemed important. I was at a function recently when a gentleman asked me if I brought the family with me. What could I tell him? Then there was another instance of a conversation when a lady was discussing a subject with me.(I can't remember what it was right off hand.) Anyway she said one day I could tell my grandchildren about that. Grandchildren? I guess sometimes we just assume things.

I know there is indeed a problem somewhere when you can be friends with someone and talk about anything, but when you hint to them of a greater interest, it's as though you've
hit them with a ton of bricks.

I am now at that point where i can start to look back in retrospect at all of the things thatI have missed out on, and probably will miss out on in the future. You know the things I'm referring to. It's those things that money could never buy.

I know I've probably rambled too much, but I'm sure you see the point I am trying to make. However, it might be predestinated for such things to happen. It's still hard to understand and take anyway. But we have the hope and spirit to press on.

R. L. Vaughn said...

Brother or Sister Anonymous--

I believe you are right that many, if not all, who have been married for many years would have a hard time relating to (or remembering) being single. But I would hasten to add that the person "advocating the position" in the verses quoted above was walking in the same condition of singleness. So he should be considered one who could relate to being single.

The Scriptures above were posted for a singular purpose -- to point out that the Bible does not advocate marriage for every person, though it is the norm for most. So the person who has chosen singleness or has that gift cannot and should not be looked down upon.

May God bless you as you seek His will in this matter in your life.