Answer to question 5, by Alan Knox:
"How are the various spiritual gifts exercised in the meeting of the church?...I think 1 Corinthians 12-14 -- taken together, not just a verse here or there -- is important to answering this question. 1) Realize that all gifts are given by the Spirit for the mutual benefit of others. 2) Recognize that the church needs every gift that God has provided through every believer. 3) Act as if those believers and gifts who seem less necessary are actually more important. 4) Say and do everything motivated by love for God and love for one another. 5) When the church is gathered, believers should only exercise those gifts that build up the church. 6) Give preference in exercising gifts to another person. 7) Allow the entire church the opportunity to exercise their gifts." -- a North Carolina blogger named Alan Knox, in his post "Answers to Questions..."
I think this is a pretty good answer.